“Turning The Mind Into An Ally” by Sakyong Mipham, has many life-altering simplifications in it’s pages, and there’s one in particular that every Westerner should know. It’s a technique for training your conversational attention and realizing how self-fulfilling most of the things we say are.
Firstly, it’s imperative to realize how unproductive a busy mind is. To those who think it’s impossible to quiet the incessant banter in your head; you can at least slow it down to a crawl.
Now as for the technique, without mindfulness meditation and a lot of clever problem solving, there’s a low chance you’ll make it past a few minutes but it’s fun to try.
Basically, just try to go as long as you can without referring to yourself. This means no “I, me, my, our,” and no cheating by using third person such as “this one, he, her, his.” You simply are aiming to attempt to remove your self-involvement from every part of any conversation you encounter.
It’s not easy to accomplish for even two minutes but if you can set a goal and reach it, you’re doing better than most. If you manage to pull it off somewhat successfully then you’ll notice it spilling over into your thoughts and actions.
In other words, you’ll become truly selfless! Have a fun time with it! Namaste!